Monday, November 12, 2007

Solemnization

Marriage is a contract, and the "Akad Nikah" effectively forges the union. The "Akad Nikah" is the actual religious solemnization of the marriage. While all the other ceremonies performed in a Malay wedding before and after the "Akad Nikah" may even be considered as derived from the traditional culture of the Malays, and may be omitted, the "Akad Nikah" is an Islamic ceremony without which no marriage is valid.


The "kadhi" seeking consent from the groom, in the presence of the"wali" and the 2 witnesses.



Reciting the wedding vows - recited after the "kadhi" infront of the "wali" and the 2 witnesses.

Consent of both the bride and the bridegroom must be obtained, and the religious offical "kadhi" conducting the marriage must make sure the marraige is entered into willingly by both the parties.


A verbal and written agreement to marry is made between the groom and the "wali" , the lawful guardian.At times the marriage solemnization is in fact done by the bride's father in the presence of religious officials.

Signing of marriage certificate

In a brief sermon given by the officals, the bridegroom and the bride will receive a briefing on their rights and responsibilities as a married couple, particularly from the Islamic perspective. The groom is also reminded that, should he fail to provide both spiritual and physical sustenance for his wife, the marriage can be dissolved under the laws of the Syariah Court. There must be 2 offical witnesses at the "Akad Nikah" . Conventionally, a small sum of money known as "mas kahwin" seals the contract.

To further complete the ceremony, the "mas kahwin" is offically handed over to the bride.

After receiving the "mas kahwin" and as an appreciation of thanks the bride, now offically the wife kisses the hand of the groom, now the husband.

One needs to distinguish the "mas kahwin" and the "wang hantaran" (dowry). The small sum of the "mas kahwin" is to ensure that even poor people could marry, for marriage is encouraged for all healthy Muslims. Often the "mas kahwin" takes the form of both cash, jewellery or clothing. The "wang hantaran" on the other hand may go into thousands of dollars.

A marriage certificate will be issued by the "kadhi" or State Religion Council representatives following the ceremony, and this is to be signed by the bridegroom, the bride as well as the withness.

The "upacara akad nikah" (solemnization) often takes place at the bride's place. The "Akad Nikah" ceremony is a family affair, attended by relatives, close friends and guests.

The groom with the "wang hantaran" (dowry) and the gifts for the bride.

Applying Henna

Prior to the actual wedding day, whereby the bride's fingers and feet are being decorated with the dye from the "henna" leaves. Normally these custom is being carried about 1 or 2 days before the wedding.

These practise of apply "henna" is exceptional for the bridegroom, even though there are still who wears them over 2 or 3 fingers.

If you're wondering what is 'henna'; well, henna is a reddish brown dye obtained from the leaves of a tropical shrub. Once applied, the dye could last about 3 to 6 months.

Henna Plant

Henna In Powder Form

Engagement

A very typical Malay wedding will begin with the engagement ceremony. On the engagement day the bridegroom family brings the items agreed upon. The bridegroom's representative will hand over all the "hantaran" (gifts) items with the exception of the engagement ring. The ring will be placed on the finger of the bride by a member of the groom, signifying that she's engaged to the owner of the ring. The bride will all this while be in her chamber.

"Hantaran" Gifts


The purpose of the engagement ceremony is to inform that the girl is now attached to someone. And it's in this ceremony that the two families (the bride and the bridegroom) will discuss about the wedding plans. The groom family will then informed the bride's family about the engagement period . Normally the duration of engagement will varies from 3 months to 3 years, depending on the groom and the bride on how prepared they are; financially, physically and mentally to get settled.

During the ceremony, the groom's family will mention the "wang hantaran" (dowry) that the groom is giving to the bride on the solemnize day. Normally the "wang hantaran" is being set by the bride's family upon agreement from the groom's family.This amount varies from $5,000 to $15,000.

It's a tradition in the Malay society to exchange gifts (hantaran) between the two families and these gifts comes in many forms like cakes, clothes, fruits and etc.

Inserting Of Engagement Ring